LOVE happens once is a LIE.....I cannot live without you is another....

We grew up watching Kuch Kuch Hota Hai in which SRK said "Hum ek baar jeete hain, ek baar marte hain, shaadi bhi ek baar hoti hai, aur pyaar bhi...sirf ek baar hota hai" Everything is right we live once, we die once but love and marriage, well love can happen more than once and it is totally normal to get in and out of love. It is not necessary that you will grow old with your high school sweetheart. Love is just not being in a relationship, it is more than a relationship and vice versa a relationship is not just about love, it requires friendship, understanding, scarifies, compromise and a little more to be in a relationship.

Now there is another saying that "Love happens only once, and the second time is always a compromise made to forget the first love." well maybe right but there is a difference between a time pass relationship and a relationship which came out of love. minimum 80% people in India do not marry the first person they fell in love with but they are still in a successful relationship because maybe the first one was no the perfect one for them. We can fall in and out of love so many times until we find the right person and if you are not happy with the person you are living with right now you should end it up as being single is better than being in a forceful relationship. 

"I cannot live without you." another lie. Nobody dies when someone close to them dies or when they leave them. Life goes on. Nobody stops breathing, it just takes time to get normal and stop thinking about that person, it is just how long it takes us to move on, everyone is born alone and will die alone, heartbreaks are just a part of it which help us to grow. At the end everyone gets their other halves at the most unexpected time and in the most unexpected way. you don't need to rush for it.

If you fall in love, just make sure you're loving and being loved by the right person, not just because it seems the right thing to do. Always remember it is better to be single but inspired rather than committed but confused.  

How I used to be...

Somebody asked me "how you used to be when you were happy ?"

I just can’t stop thinking about it. How I used to be?  I was a very jolly person, like a free soul, a free bird, no one had any expectations from me. I used to play guitar, sing loudly even if I was not that good at singing, used to learn sketching and used to waste a lot of money on stupid unnecessary hobbies or occasional interests (card making, paper quiling, learning sketching in which i was horrible, mehndi because of my grand mother etc etc).

I used to do so many mistake, I was the opposite of a perfectionist, like a panoti, I used to talk a lot, my phone bills used to cover almost half of my pocket money , I used to call my friends in the middle of the night and then I could go on talking to them for hours, non stop.  I used to text a lot, I used to love the loud music. I had hope in everything; I used to get over excited even on a simple silly thing.

I had these two people my two besties, people used to call us TRIMURTI or TRIGONOMETRY. My parents used to love me like their little princess, they still do but not like their little baby. My little sister always asked for suggestions from me, she always asked for my advice but now she don’t she is a big girl now. I had this perfect life where I didn't want anything else.

Dad was fine then. I had no worries. I had friends to hangout with. I was not much emotionally attached to anyone. I was living in the real world more instead of the friends who used to talk over phone or Facebook or orkut in the 20's wala desktop or SMS on the NOKIA 1100 at that time. Life was stupid but beautiful.

I was kiddish, carefree, happy, idiotic, insane, chatterbox and now I just have the kiddish voice nothing else.

“Happiness is a way of travel and not a destination” and it seems like I am walking on the wrong road.  I am addicted to this sadness, I am not able to smile with my heart. Sometimes I don’t feel like continuing t live. I don’t want to kill myself, I just want it all to stop and go away. I want to be calm. I want to be happy again.

I miss the OLD, HAPPY me..

Do you ever get that feeling where you don’t want to talk to anybody? You don’t want to smile and you don’t want to fake being happy. But at the same time you don’t know what is wrong either. There isn't a way to explain it to anyone. All you want in the world is to be alone.

I am experiencing it and all I feel is staying in the bed and not going anywhere, I quit my job because I don’t feel like going there, I don’t talk to my friends anymore, I don’t go out, I just stay in the house and sleep, I lost my appetite also. Even at home I just lay on my bed the whole day. When someone ask what is wrong with me I say that I don’t want to talk about it. Actually, I do, but I am afraid of people’s reaction, I feel like they will not treat me the same way they do now. I just don’t understand what I should do. No amount of sleep in the world could cure the tiredness I feel.

I am not depressed. I get anxious over the NORMAL things like tests, presentations, first dates, whatever. And then on small mistakes I feel like I have done a big crime and then i get anxious about being anxious but there is not even a thing to be anxious about. The worst part is I get frustrated because of it and I just keep on finding out searching over the internet whether the symptoms I have is of anxiety or something else. I remember I used to keep myself busy for like 14 hours a day, I ended up having no life at all. Now I don’t do anything and then I feel guilty that i wasted my time and it gives me panic attack and i feel powerless. I overanalyze everyday interactions. I stay at night for hours doing nothing just thinking about something or the other. I can come up with the worst scenarios in my mind.

“ I don’t know where to go from here, I don’t even know who I am anymore”

Just Be Yourself

What does being yourself mean?

Being yourself means portraying your real character. But how to know what your real character is? You are defined by your own emotions and experiences which affects you in the given moment. A doctor never said that you are going to be shy or outgoing. You don’t have one personality. You are defined by experiences and emotions. So, is it okay to be yourself in every situation? Yes and No. Suppose you went to a job interview, there you have to act professionally because it is a job interview, however, for some personal scenarios like first day at college or meeting someone outside the professional area it is beneficial there to be yourself. In order for you to be yourself, you need to identify your intentions, Do you want work? Do you want relationship? Or Do you want friendship?

Just embrace the feeling you are experiencing in the moment, you might be feeling shy, you might be feeling outgoing so just act the way you feel. Many times people try to be people who they are not, the reason might be that person is prettier, funnier; more respected or might be popular.

It's tough to enjoy life when you don't like yourself. People who haven't learned to accept and get along with themselves tend to have more difficulty accepting and getting along with other. Your difficulty with other people is actually your difficulty with yourself

The Bible says a good tree will bear good fruit, and a rotten tree will bear rotten fruit. Likewise, the "fruit" of our lives comes from the "root" within us. If you're rooted in shame, guilt, inferiority, rejection, lack of love and acceptance, etc., the fruit of your relationships will suffer. However, once you have a revelation of God's unconditional love for you and begin to accept yourself and others, eventually these new roots will produce good fruit, and your relationships will thrive. 

Never say or think negative things about yourself, such as, "I never do anything right." "I'll never change." "I'm ugly." "I look terrible." "I'm dumb." "Who could ever love me?" By your words you will be justified..., and by your words you will be condemned”. In other words, the way we talk and think about ourselves reveals how we feel about ourselves.

 

. Never compare yourself with other people. God must love variety or He wouldn't have created us all differently—even down to our fingerprints. You'll never succeed at being yourself if you're trying to be like someone else. Other people can be a good example to you, but duplicating even their good traits will manifest differently through your individual personality.

“Don’t pretend to be someone you are not, because they don’t have what you got.”

Beauty attracts the eyes, personality capture the heart !!

Beauty attracts the eyes, personality capture the heart !!

Some people gets genetic lottery and they end up being good looking. But what matters more, good looks or good personality?? Researches has been done, people who are good looking are more influential. Now everywhere you look in society, every movie you watch you see a good looking hero, you see posters of modals, dramas, everything you see, our brain links with that and we feel that to look like that is important, we see a guy or a girl on a poster and they look perfect. Now how important it is the way we look that is the question. Well, looks does matter, but to some extents but what stays forever is our personality. Looks only develop the first impression nothing more. Looks will attract someone but it is the personality which will keep the fire running.

Now it is a misconception that if a person is good looking than he/she will attract more people. Attraction is something which takes time, it builds slowly and that lasts forever.

There are several good looking person out there and we are just not able to connect with them because they don’t attract us with their personality, their soul. Whether this is life, dating, job apart from modelling you will get attracted to the person because of your personality.

Looks doesn’t stay forever, you will look good till your 30s or 40s or 50s but gradually your looks will deteriorate, it won’t be the same but one thing which doesn’t change is your personality your soul, it will stay with you forever no matter how old you get. Soul will define the way you think, the way you react, the way you treat others. It will never change and for that reason personality place an important role over looks.  

Image is powerful but Personality is superficial !

The man of my dream

This is about the man,

Who has stolen my heart.

One who gave me so much respect,

And who knows that promises are meant to be kept.

One who never tell me any lies,

And I almost get lost in his eyes.

He is the one who is little mysterious,

But for whom the relationship is serious.

Whenever I feel bad,

He makes everything perfect from bad.

He knows how to bring smile on my face,

Love & trust are our relationship’s base.

He is the one with whom I can behave as a child,

Who scolds me, but a little mild..

He is like a guiding light,

When I’m alone, he hugs me tight.

The one with whom I can talk nonsense,

He can calm me down when I’m tense.

He is the one who is my today and tomorrow,

He is the one with whom there would be no sorrows.

He is the one who will take me in his arms,

And i will be lost in his charms.

He cares me like my daddy,

And bring roses and cute teddy.

He is the one who has won my heart’s race,

Whom no one could ever replace. J

It's never too late to start over !!

It’s never too late to start over. If you weren’t happy with yesterday, try something different today. Don’t stay stuck. Do better.

People always say they want a new life or the chance to start over. Well the truth is, you get that chance everyday but you choose not to change it.

I believe that each and every day is a new beginning, if you will get stuck with one thing one failure of life, you won’t be able to succeed. Sometimes the only real satisfaction we get in life is because of the failure, failure is your endeavour to do your best.

Let go...How would your life be different if don’t learn to let go of things that have already let go of you? From relationships long gone, to old grudges, to regrets, to all the could’ve or should’ve, to the dead friendship you still hang on to...free yourself from the burden of the past you cannot change and start all over again. Put your doubts aside and trust in the wisdom of life. Put your destiny in life’s hands, and allow life to guide you. To take you, not where your think you should go, but where you are meant to go. Trust life’s wisdom, because life knows a lot more about you and your life path, than you yourself do.

If you have an addiction leave it today and start over again, if you fail then start again the next day until you succeed. If you want to get over someone, try keeping yourself busy and understand that they were not meant to be with you. If you fail in some exam today don’t lose hope destiny has already decided something for you. Just let go the past and try to begin a new life with today. 

Take this new day as a new opportunity for you to craft your life on a stronger and healthier foundation. A new chance for you to be happy. To start all over and show the world what you are really made of. Each day is a gift given to you by life itself. Each day is a new beginning, a new chance and a new opportunity for you to create something better, something new.  To offer more value to the world around you, and to reveal more of yourself to those you love. Each day is a new life, each moment is a precious gift. So make the best of each day. Make the best of each moment.

Let today be the day you finally release yourself from imprisonment of past grudges and anger. Simplify your life. Let go of the poisonous past and live the abundantly beautiful present.. today.

Soul Mates

Soul mates!

I think they exist.

I think there are certain people you will meet in your life with whom you connect more than anyone and you just know it is not a typical thing and you understand each other perfectly. Soul mate is that person who is constantly on your mind even when you are busy as hell, they're still there floating around in  your head. It's like complete adoration. You know the things other people don't like about that person, but you can accept them. Imperfections are not important. When you are with them or without them it is this force inside you and you just want to hug the crap out of them. But even when you do it's still not enough. Whatever you do or say can't express the affection you want to show them. Not even the words 'I love you' can come close to how much they mean to you. When you spend the whole day and still don't want to say goodbye. Their appearance can bring butterflies in your stomach, when their name is mentioned something summersaults in your stomach. It is like hgdfgsdfgjsgdfsdfgdgchdgchgaduuyegchxz something you can't express exactly, it can only be felt.

But who exactly is your soul mate? Is it your lover, your husband, wife, girlfriend or boyfriend? No a soul mate is someone with whom you connect. It is not necessary that the person should be your lover. The person can be your best friend, your mother, your sister, brother or anyone with whom you can open up and share your stuffs with and they do the same. They understand you the way no one else can. A person who connects with your soul is your soul mate. They have a spiritual relationship with us. They stand by us in our good and bad times. They are someone who are just meant for us and they do special things treat you that way just because they want to and they feel happy in your happiness, jealousy doesn't hold a place between you. A soul mate is not a one side story, they consist of two people who are totally devoted to each other.If you are able to find your soulmate in your lover than that is the most beutiful thing you have achieved in your life.

If you ever find such a person, hold on to them, because you will never ever find such a person ever again. It is a one time thing...and destiny will let you meet them.

Everything changes with the blink of an eye !!

People say nothing is permanent; everything changes with the blink of an eye..!!

We also believe this fact but when it comes to accepting it on certain situations, we deny it. Feelings, emotions, circumstances, relationships, life is never the same. If anyone is born, he will have to die. If someone is your friend now, it doesn't mean that you will have the same kind of bond till the end. When we lose someone very close to our heart we start feeling helpless. We need to accept one simple thing that NOTHING IS PERMANENT and if we don’t want to feel helpless we just need to LIVE IN THE MOMENT and accept it.

Even our troubles are not permanent. Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Gum, it is just the cycle of life. If we never get sad, we will never gonna understand how beautiful the happiness is, if we never fall we will never learn to rise, if we do not break up with the wrong people we will never find the right one.

Nothing is permanent especially PEOPLE, never keep your hopes high on someone, they are humans and one day or the other due to any of the reasons they will leave but as long as they are with you create beautiful memories so that when you apart from them you will never regret being with them. Friends become strangers and we all know this, we don’t talk much with our school friends when we go to the college and when we grow old have kids, we are not left with much of our childhood friends and even if you are in contact with them, that friendship is not the same, that bond and electricity and sharing is not there as you have other people to share your stuffs now. With time friendship, priorities, ways to express love for someone, thoughts, emotions, feelings, attitude everything changes and when we experience all these changes we grow wiser, that is something which transforms our mentality, personality and way of handling certain situations.

Just appreciate what you have and live the life with a big smile to make it happy whatever the situation maybe.